Vision Statement
A community where people support each other as we heal our past pain, sorrow, and grief through compassion, acceptance, and understanding. Guidance that enables the healing of the T[t]raumas and/or programming suffered earlier in life that are plaguing the present through repeating patterns, triggering events, and the pain and suffering we currently experience.
By the time I was twelve years old, I knew my childhood was deplorable. Before and after this understanding, I would cry myself to sleep, knowing I was trapped within a family that was mentally cruel, physically abusive, controlling, manipulative, and neglectful. I was unable then to begin to heal, nor did I know what healing meant, but as I matured, I struggled to correct the horrific childhood and teen years that ensued.
It took me many years before I truly understood what healing would entail for me. Eventually, my healing journey accelerated at an increasingly rapid pace. I share life events that I have endured. I would have given anything to escape the events of my childhood, as I could not have known how bad they would become. Now, in my life, I am grateful for the T[t]raumas, the negative programming, and the belief systems that came about because they taught me compassion, acceptance, and understanding.
Fleur de Lys Services (FDLServices) is dedicated to supporting others on their healing journeys. Every person in this world has received programming (good and bad), and most of us have traumatic experiences. Many people pick up the baggage (intentionally or unintentionally) of those they care about or are close to. Not every person understands that this baggage requires healing to set it down and never pick it up again. At FDLServices we help everyone identify their repeating patterns, triggers, and emotional patterns. We explore the emotional patterns that trigger those events. We learn to follow the threads of those emotional patterns to understand the root cause. We then help to heal whatever is causing pain and suffering through the Melchizedek Healing Methodology.
The root cause may be a T[t]rauma, a negative program, or a combination of T[t]raumas and programming. If the T[t]rauma and/or program have been unresolved for a period of time, they can fester into one or multiple belief systems. Healing is necessary to release all of these, so they no longer trigger events, cause pain, or lead to suffering.
I developed the Melchizedek Healing Methodology over 30 years of healing work. I have seen psychotherapists for more than twenty years and tried many different healing modalities. Some were helpful, while others were not. The Melchizedek Healing Methodology came about because I needed to heal my pain and suffering to be free from it. This was necessary for me to learn due to the massive number of T[t]raumas and immense negative programming I received during my formative and teen years.
I was born into a highly abusive and narcissistic family. I received physical, emotional, verbal, and sexual abuse throughout my formative and teen years. Traumatic events and negative programming marked my earliest moments in life. When I was leaving my formative years, the amount of negative programming and T[t]raumatic events dominated my life. My teen years ratified the established negative programs that told me I was dumb, stupid, unlovable, incapable of loving others, a liar, no one cared about me, no one listened to me, and of course the repeated statement by Ken (father), Waunita (mother) and Kenny (older brother), “You are a worthless piece of shit that will never amount to anything.”
I learned how to actively listen to people while passively guiding them toward recognizing their triggers. I have taught clients, and they have validated that when you become aware of what triggers are, you can eventually recognize when you are being triggered, and even identify patterns before the triggering event occurs. Teaching clients how to document the emotional patterns accompanying a triggering event is pivotal to understanding how to follow the threads from the triggers and emotional patterns to the root cause. That is why I created the Melchizedek Healing Journal (you may find it on the Books menu option and on Amazon). Root cause may be a T[t]raumas or negative programming, a combination of T[t]rauma and negative programming, and/or a T[t]rauma with multiple negative programs. If the T[t]raumas and/or negative programming have not been released after some time, there may also be one or multiple belief systems. Regardless of what the root cause turns out to be, the most critical aspect is to realize and desire to heal your pain.
Healing is cathartic. It does not matter if you are healing a T[t]rauma, a negative program, or a combination of both. It won’t matter if this is something you brought into this lifetime or developed during it. The more healing you do, the lighter, happier, more stable, and filled with grace you become. I can tell you that at first, healing is very much like the layers of an onion. When you heal something within you, you peel a layer of the onion that is you. That will expose a new layer that has something different that requires resolution. Something you could not see or feel before you peeled the previous layer.
As you heal the next layer, you become more aware of additional issues that can trigger and cause similar or vastly different patterns. The more you heal, the lighter you feel. You eventually realize that you are happier than you’ve been in a long time (or ever). I have found that the more I heal, the more stable my life has become, and the more at peace I always feel. The richness of life resonates within me as my friends and chosen family acknowledge these changes.
Fleur de Lys Services is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping you orchestrate your own healing journey and guide you through the healing process you require. We do not have your answers, and we do not fix you! We help by coaching you through the healing you do for yourself. We help you recognize that you are the one with your answers. That you are the healing that you’ve always needed or wanted. Our guidance is designed to assist you in following a proven methodology while helping you identify the steps throughout the process.
We work with you in one-on-one sessions and/or tribal group meetings. One-on-one sessions can be scheduled on this site, while tribal group meetings are held weekly, and you can sign up to attend. The tribal group meetings cannot guarantee that everyone will do work that night, but as you hold space for another tribe member performing their healing work, you may find yourself working through your own issues as they perform theirs.
